There is nothing more scary than the first realization that you are a submissive, and that you can't continue to live as if you are not. There is a ton of information on the net that can help, but there is an equal amount that will lead you into damaging situations. This is amplified by the natural "Sub Frenzy" that people feel during this phase. On this page you can find links to information that we believe will help.

Sub Frenzy:
Understanding sub frenzy will go a long way towards making you feel like you are not alone, and that what you are going through is experienced by so many other people that it had to be named. It is not pretty, but it is natural and it is to be expected. Here is a good write up on it.
http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/Lifestyle/sub_frenzies.htm

The Dominance Economy:
http://www.enslavement.org.uk/finding

Negotiation Checklist:
http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/nchk_main.php3

Understanding Submission:
http://www.peter-masters.com/wiki/index.php/Understanding_Submission

Dating sites:
We would highly recommend staying away from BDSM dating sites until you have a very clear understanding of everything above. We have seen far to many submissives go directly to dating sites and have terrible experiences and blame it all on BDSM rather than the predatory person they met online. They then write off the lifestyle altogether and proceed to be miserable. This has unfortunately become quite a prominent pattern, almost to the point of being cliche. Until you understand the ways that sub frenzy will cloud your judgement, and understand the Dominance Economy enough to know that any dominant that needs to approach you is probably not the right one, and understand why it's a bad idea to say that you have no limits and are into everything - you should stay away from dating sites. No really, just wait.

So how do you meet people if not on the internet? In order to really screen a Dominant, you have to see how other Dominants react to them. There is no way to do this online. We have recently even seen instances of a Dominant here in Hawaii creating online profiles of submissives just for the purpose of praising and recommending them to new people. That is why it is so advantageous to become active in a BDSM community. If someone is respected by their peers, that is the best possible recommendation they can get.